Kimberly Lou Inc. Be U has over 30 programs we can offer your facility. In addition, each of our facilitators has been in treatment and is familiar with the treatment process, making them relatable to the clients. Our mission is to help clients accelerate and thrive through mental focus, emotional intelligence, and physical movement, and we are passionate about expanding our programs throughout southern Orange County. As a result of our top-quality care and service, which allows us to break down barriers to recovery, we have an extremely high participation and satisfaction rate.
Book your free demonstration of any program of your choosing to ensure your satisfaction with the group facilitation.
We come to you with a prepared six-week curriculum for each one of our 30 programs. In addition, during these trying times, we also offer Zoom or any virtual platforms you are comfortable with.
Belief Systems and Unpacking Your BS
If something is reoccurring in your life, chances are it is because of a Belief System. A Belief System is your personal story that you tell yourself every day, day in and day out, and it’s a survival skill that usually stems from childhood. My goal is to help you identify old, negative belief systems and change them into something more positive. In childhood, we are taught our BS, and through our successes, tragedies, and especially our failures, we are creating a thought system that shapes our actions. This affects everything we do; however, this BS can be changed with the right tools.
Inner Child: What exactly is this so-called inner child? Does it actually exist? And why should we care?
Destructive behavior takes various forms, from subtle self-sabotage and self-defeating patterns to passive hostility, and sometimes including severe self-destructive symptoms and addictions. By connecting with the inner-child, we gain access to new information about our unhealed wounds and unmet needs.
Breathworks refers to breathing exercises or techniques; people often perform them to improve mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. During Breathworks, you intentionally change your breathing pattern. A deep belly breath, despite its simplicity, can be profound. We’ve always been familiar with the power of our breath—there’s a reason the advice is to “take deep breaths” when we feel overwhelmed or stressed out, and virtually every yoga practice recognizes the importance of balanced breath. But Breathworks has become so much more than a simple inhale-exhale. It is quickly becoming a go-to method of clearing negative thoughts and balancing energy while promoting deep relaxation.
We offer a variety of types of Breathworks and Mindful Meditation Groups including
- Mindful Meditation
- Transcendental Meditation
- Sound Baths
Conscious Communication – Getting What You Want with The Language You Use
Conscious Communication is a way of talking and listening that is focused on growing healthy, mutually enriching relationships. Since most relationship problems are rooted in communications that are either avoided, forced, or misinterpreted, the purpose is to provide an emotional experience that allows each person to feel safe enough to grow a quality relationship in which essential personal needs (not wants) are expressed, mutually valued, and met through natural giving.
Movement and Reconstructive Exercise Training
Movement and Reconstructive Exercise Training is a fitness therapy format built around the three Ps: Pain, Performance, and Posture. It helps eliminate pain, enhances performance, and improves posture through a unique combination of Mayo-fascia release (Self-Massage), Corrective Exercises, and Breathing Techniques. By identifying your body’s blind spots—areas that are most overused, underused, or misused—Movement Training helps heal damaged muscle, increases strength, and establishes healthy movement patterns.
Expressive Art Therapy combines the creative process with psychotherapeutic methods to enhance mental health and well-being. Art therapy develops an approach to mental health that utilizes art to strengthen mental, physical, and emotional wellness. It also helps clients develop self-awareness, explore emotions, address unresolved emotional conflicts, improve social skills, and raise self-esteem.
Emotional Fitness is the key to managing your life-force energy, but how do we do that? We first need to retrain the brain and determine what drains your energy. Many thoughts and emotions threaten to suck the life-force right out of us, and then we wonder why we cannot manage our lives.
As a result, many have struggled, filling their lives with addictions, including food, alcohol, drugs, workaholism, and sex, all of which impact their health. In many cases, these addictions lead to self-destructive behaviors, creating painful lives in addition to destroying some of the closest relationships around them. There is an epidemic of people running away from anything that causes them to face the truth; they are running from their inner demons. I call these inner demons Big Emotions.
What keeps people stuck in this vicious cycle and causes them and their loved ones to suffer? It is a survival mode that stems from childhood, especially for those who had to step up as children and take responsibility. There was a past pain, a hurt that they now spend their lives trying to avoid. As a result, they stay stuck in a Belief System based on a story they assigned meaning to. They unconsciously hold on to the negative energy of their past; they can’t let it go because they don’t even know it’s there. These survival skills have worked for many people for a very long time. However, this survival mode which has helped them in the past comes at a high cost, and it is the very thing killing them softly. Or, sometimes, not so softly.
The pain of the life-lie keeps the central nervous system on high alert and causes people to stay stuck in a vicious reptilian-brain cycle that never allows the mind to rest. Thus, many people (at least 15% of the population) suffer from addictions and severe depression. In addition, they experience mental disorders like PTSD and anxiety. If they had allowed themselves to release the past and added self-care into their lives, they would have been able to heal, create new lives, and sustain themselves for the long haul.
Why did this loss happen? In many cases, there was an underlying feeling of shame. This is why they pursued such extremes, trying to run from the pain of their past and struggling to fill that unfillable, gaping hole in their hearts. There is, however, a simple solution. It’s called feeling those Big Emotions. When people will themselves to turn around and face their feelings, especially the ones they have been running from their whole lives, what they will usually find is that Emotions Are Just Energy, and those emotions will usually fade away within five to ten minutes; this is called Collapsing an Emotion.
“Your Goal and your Purpose are two different things. Goals are what you want. Your purpose is what is seeking to emerge through you.” ☺Kimberly Lou
Sometimes clients are hesitant about setting goals at the beginning of their program. “What’s the use?” they say, “I have the very same goals as last year, and the year before that, and the year before that. The only difference is now, when I set goals, I feel like it’s never going to happen.” Many do not realize that most goals fail because the person setting the goal usually doesn’t have a specific blueprint or plan, or the tools to achieve them.
Healing Your Relationship with Food
Developing a healthy relationship with food takes conscious effort, but it is possible. This relationship includes relaxed eating as well as practicing balance and versatility in your eating. These principles will let you feel more at peace with food and help you recognize how to stop unhealthy habits.
Gratitude is a significant part of relapse prevention because it helps people to feel positive emotions and relish good experiences. It also improves their health, mentally, physically, and emotionally. What is Gratitude? Gratitude is a thankful appreciation for what an individual receives, whether tangible or intangible, but it’s not just Gratitude; it’s the WHY behind the Gratitude that allows us to grow. In this program, we will determine which negative believes may exist, and we will develop self-talk and strategies on how to shift into a mindset of gratitude.
Relapse Prevention – After-treatment Planning and Programming
Recovering from mental health challenges or drug or alcohol addiction isn’t a quick process. It takes time to get over a dependence, deal with withdrawal symptoms, and overcome the urge to use. Relapse means going back to using after you’ve been abstinent for some time. It’s an ever-present threat when you’re trying to recover. The National Institute on Drug Abuse estimates that 40 to 60 percent of people who were once addicted to drugs will eventually relapse. Being aware of the stages of relapse and having a plan to deal with them can help prevent you from using again.
The critical inner voice we hear has usually developed from painful early life experiences, and it works against us or those close to us. As adults, we unconsciously adopt and integrate this pattern of negative thinking toward ourselves and others. When we neglect to recognize and separate from this inner critical voice, we enable it to influence our behavior and shape the direction of our lives. It may sabotage our progress or relationships, blocking us from experiencing the lives we want to lead and from becoming who we are meant to be.
If we have been taught to ignore our own personal needs and instead concentrate on meeting others’ needs, there is a good chance that we have developed at least some codependent traits. Codependents often struggle to recognize their self-worth unless receiving constant affection and love from other people. This desperate need for reassurance and love often leads codependents to relinquish their own identity and have weak boundaries in relationships. Fortunately, addressing codependency and lack of boundaries may be of great help, as we learn how to set healthy boundaries and love ourselves without needing others for reassurance.
Controlling Your Anger Before It Controls You
Anger is a healthy emotion. However, it can occur out of proportion to its trigger. In these cases, feeling of anger can damage relationships, obstruct a person’s decision-making process, and cause harm. Suppressing and storing up anger can also have a damaging impact. When one is triggered, anger can be difficult to stop in its tracks. However, detecting emotion early can be critical. Learning to control anger can limit emotional damage and allow a person to redirect their thought processes to a more constructive place. In this group, learn how to: reduce physiological arousal and emotions that cause anger; manage and identify the triggers; and learn to regulate responses.
Through the 12 Steps, people learn how to cope with addiction, avoid triggers, and live sober lives. Support-group members admit their powerlessness over addiction, examine past mistakes, and make amends with those they’ve wronged. The 12 Steps was originated by Alcoholics Anonymous, and it is the spiritual foundation for personal recovery from the effects of alcoholism, not only for the alcoholic, but also for friends and family in Al-Anon Family Groups. Many members of 12 Step recovery programs have found that these steps were not merely a way to stop drinking—they became a guide toward a new way of life. In this group, clients learn to find new coping skills toward finding a new way of living, while creating a lifestyle built to last.
A Sound Bath is a deeply immersive, full-body listening practice that purposely uses sound to invite soothing yet powerful therapeutic and restorative methods to nourish the mind and body.
The experience begins with each person lying down or seated in a comfortable position. After a few minutes of guided focus on the breath, the room is filled with different sounds and frequencies which are introduced in succession. Sounds are created by various overtone-emitting instruments, including tuning forks and crystal singing bowls, chimes, and voice.
Meet Our Team
We have a team of highly experienced practitioners who facilitate multiple groups throughout Southern California and absolutely love what they do. They are experienced in working with treatment centers and are knowledgeable in managing any circumstances that may arise. They are ESPECIALLY great at getting full participation.
As a fitness professional, Bryan Aleman believes that physical fitness and mental health go hand in hand. Trained and well versed in the Pranayama breathing technique (Breathworks), Bryan aspires to help individuals in need through his personal experiences in life and group facilitating skills. Bryan is passionate about his practice and its benefits because he has the opportunity to support clients through hard times in their recovery and guide them to a new way of living. As an artist, Bryan believes it is never too late to make your life a masterpiece.
Adam is an RADT certified practitioner, a certified yoga instructor, group fitness instructor, and life coach. Adam has personal experience in recovery from addiction. And his journey has inspired him to grow as a leader as a healer and to be of service to others. Adam is honored to work with people from all walks of life on their journey out of addiction and he finds it extremely rewarding to bring value and assistance to clients as they move forward with their lives. In his spare time Adam likes to work out, swim, cycle, play sports, practice yoga,
Mark is our ADT certified practitioner and has a personal history of overcoming childhood trauma and mental health issues. The events that transpired in his past shaped him into the person he is today, and he thinks that is why he is so passionate about helping others work on their own personal growth and development. He’s always been someone who strives to be there for people and believes that facilitating the treatment and recovery of others is one of the most fulfilling ways to do so. In his spare time, Mark enjoys spending time outdoors camping, hiking, skateboarding, and laughing with his family and friends.
Tyler is a RADT certified practitioner and has a personal history of recovering from addiction. Tyler loves helping others who struggle with addiction and mental health issues because he knows how bright your future can be when you realign your life to a path of self-love and surround yourself with people who encourage you to be your best self. Tyler loves working out, going out in nature, practicing yoga, and most importantly, sharing these experiences in life with friends and people he meets along the way. “Your body is a temple, treat it as such, and it will reward you!”
Meet Our Partners
We work with over 50 Addiction and Dual Diagnosis Treatment Centers, including Simple Recovery with the First Responders Unit, True Recovery, D’Amore, AMFM, A Better Life Recovery, Casa, Seaside, Tru Vida, Hillside, Gratitude Lodge, OceanFront and Beachside Recovery to name a few.
References are available upon request.